Consultative Sales Training That Works For Your Team
Updated for 2025-2026
Consultative sales training teaches reps how to earn the right to ask questions which teaches them to get better at actively listening. Here’s the truth nobody wants to hear: consultative selling isn’t about asking questions—it’s about diagnosing problems, quantifying economic impact, and earning the right to guide decisions. Everything else is just theater.
Consultative sales training teaches reps how to earn the right to “ask good questions” and “actively listen.” And ultimately, if you delay sales training, you are hurting yourself.
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Introduction: Why Most Consultative Sales Training Fails
Your team goes through consultative sales training. They learn to ask open-ended questions. They practice active listening. They nod thoughtfully and say things like “Tell me more about that.” They role-play discovery scenarios. They get certified in “consultative selling.”
And then what happens?
They get into real consultative sales conversations. They ask questions. They listen. They build rapport. And the prospect says “Thanks for your time” and ghosts them. Or worse—they spend three months “consulting” with a prospect who was never going to buy, and your pipeline is like having a closet of “nothing to wear”. You look at it, and it depresses you.
And then what happens?
You blame the rep for not being consultative enough. Or you send them to another consultative sales training program where they’ll learn more questions to ask. But the sales trainer is terrible. Or you hire “consultative sellers” who interview well but can’t close deals.
Here’s the truth nobody wants to hear: Most consultative sales training is broken because it focuses on behaviors (asking questions, listening) instead of outcomes (diagnosing problems, quantifying impact, driving decisions).
Consultative selling doesn’t mean being nice. It doesn’t mean asking lots of questions. It doesn’t mean letting the buyer control the process while you passively take notes and avoid “being pushy.” Consultative selling is about speaking to the truth, asking the hard questions. The harder the questions you ask, the more your prospects trust you.
Real consultative selling means:
– Diagnosing problems buyers don’t fully understand yet
– Quantifying the economic impact of those problems in dollars, not feelings
– Earning the right to challenge assumptions and guide decisions
– Driving urgency through insight and economic reality, not manipulation
– Navigating complex buying committees with strategic intent
The consultative selling reps who master this close deals. The reps who just “build rapport” and “ask good questions” fill pipelines with conversations that never convert. They do not understand consultative selling at all.
This guide is about training real consultative selling—not the watered-down, feel-good version taught in most sales training programs. For a deep dive into why N.E.A.T. Selling™ delivers superior consultative results, see our comprehensive guide on mastering consultative selling.
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What You’ll Learn About Consultative Selling and Consultative Sales Training
- Why traditional consultative sales training fails — and the difference between being consultative and being passive
- What consultative selling actually means in 2026 — beyond “active listening” and “building rapport”
- How to train diagnosis, not just questions — teaching reps to connect dots buyers can’t see
- The economic impact framework — turning problems into quantified business cases that drive decisions
- Earning the Right vs. assuming credibility — why buyers don’t trust reps who haven’t proven competence
- Common consultative selling mistakes — what turns consultative sellers into free consultants who don’t close
- How to implement consultative training — without creating passive order-takers or question-askers who can’t close
- Tactical frameworks and role-plays — what to actually train instead of generic “active listening” exercises
Whether you’re a sales leader trying to build a consultative sales culture, a trainer designing curriculum, or a rep trying to elevate from transactional to strategic selling, this guide will show you what consultative sales training actually looks like when done right.
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What Consultative Selling and Consultative Sales Is NOT
Before we define what consultative selling is, let’s clear up what it’s not—because most training gets this fundamentally wrong:
Consultative Selling Is NOT Just Asking Questions
Yes, consultative sellers ask questions. But so do interrogators. So do researchers conducting surveys. So do reps following SPIN Selling scripts from 1988.
Asking “What keeps you up at night?” doesn’t make you consultative—it makes you a rep following a playbook everyone’s heard before.
Real consultative selling requires understanding the answers, connecting dots the buyer hasn’t connected, and synthesizing insights that drive decisions. Questions are tools. Diagnosis is the outcome.
Here’s the difference:
Transactional rep: “What are your biggest challenges?”
Buyer: “Our forecast is unpredictable.”
Transactional rep: “We can help with that. Let me show you our forecasting solution…”
Consultative rep: “What makes it unpredictable? Is it deal slippage, reps sandbagging, or priorities changing? When deals slip, where in your process does it happen? What have you tried to fix this? What’s the actual cost when your forecast is wrong—missed board commitments, inability to hire, lost investor confidence?”
See the difference? The consultative sales rep doesn’t accept surface-level answers. They diagnose before prescribing. They connect the operational problem (“forecast is unpredictable”) to business impact (“missed commitments, can’t hire, investor risk”).
Consultative Sales Training Is NOT Teaching Reps to Being Passive
The biggest misconception about consultative selling: you let buyers control the process. You don’t push. You don’t challenge. You ask questions and wait for buyers to tell you what they need.
Wrong.
Real consultative sellers guide the conversation with strategic intent. They challenge assumptions. They push back when buyers are wrong. They drive urgency when it’s warranted. They lead the sales process instead of following it.
Being consultative doesn’t mean being passive—it means earning the right to lead through demonstrated competence and insight.
Example: A buyer says “We want to implement this in Q4.” A passive rep says “Great, let’s plan for Q4.” A consultative rep says “Based on what you told me about your approval process and IT resources, Q4 isn’t realistic. Here’s what would actually need to happen to make that timeline work, and here’s the risk if we rush it.”
That’s not being pushy. That’s being consultative. You’re using your expertise to guide them away from a bad decision.
Consultative Sales Training Teaches How NOT to do Free Consulting
“Let me understand your business. Let me diagnose your problems. Let me build you a custom solution plan with detailed ROI calculations. Let me present three options with implementation timelines. And then you can ghost me or use my recommendations to negotiate with my competitor.”
If this sounds familiar, you’re not doing consultative selling—you’re being a free consultant.
Real consultative selling includes earning commitment along the way—not doing free work and hoping buyers reciprocate.
Before you invest 10 hours building a custom business case, you get commitment: “If the numbers work and we can solve [specific problem], are you prepared to move forward?” If they won’t commit, you’re chasing a tire-kicker.
Consultative Selling Is NOT Just Relationship Selling
Don’t get me wrong, relationships matter. But relationship selling and consultative selling aren’t the same thing.
You can have great relationships with buyers who never buy from you. You can take them to lunch, connect on LinkedIn, send thoughtful articles, remember their kid’s soccer schedule, and still lose every deal.
Real consultative selling builds trust through competence, not likability. Buyers trust you because you understand their business, diagnose their problems accurately, and guide them to better decisions—not because you’re friendly or remember their kid’s name.
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Earn The Right With Consultative Sales Training
– The Four Core Competencies
Consultative sales training is based upon is a sales approach built on four core competencies. Most sales training focuses on #1 (asking questions) and ignores #2-#4. That’s why it fails.
Here’s what you actually need to train:
Consultative Sales Training Competency 1: Earn the Right to Diagnose Problems
You don’t just ask “What are your challenges?” and accept surface-level answers. You dig deeper. You ask why. You connect problems to root causes. You help buyers see patterns they’ve missed.
Weak consultative selling (question-asking):
“What are your biggest challenges with forecasting?”
“Our forecast is always wrong.”
“Got it. Let me show you how we solve that…”
Strong consultative selling (diagnosis):
“What makes your forecast wrong? Is it deal slippage, reps sandbagging, or deals you didn’t see coming?”
“Mostly slippage—deals we thought would close push to next quarter.”
“Where in your process do deals typically slip? Early stage or late stage?”
“Usually late stage, after we’ve presented pricing.”
“So you’re investing time in deals that feel real but aren’t closing. What’s your close rate on deals that make it to pricing?”
“Maybe 40%.”
“And what does it cost you when a deal you forecasted slips? Not just the revenue—the board commitments you can’t keep, the hires you can’t make, the trust you lose with your team?”
That’s diagnosis. You’re not just identifying “forecast is wrong”—you’re uncovering the root cause (late-stage slippage after pricing), the pattern (40% close rate at late stage), and the business impact (board commitments, hiring delays, team trust).
Training focus: Teach reps to ask “why” three times. Surface answer → operational cause → business impact. Role-play diagnosis, not just question-asking.
Consultative Sales Training Competency 2: Quantify Economic Impact Based on Buyer’s Beliefs
Consultative sellers don’t just identify problems—they quantify what those problems cost. Revenue lost. Time wasted. Opportunities missed. Risk exposure.
They translate operational problems into financial impact that executives care about.
Weak consultative selling:
“So your forecast is unpredictable. That must be frustrating.”
Strong consultative selling:
“Let’s quantify this. If your forecast is off by 30% each quarter, and your quarterly target is $5M, you’re missing by $1.5M. What does that cost you? Can’t hire the three AEs you planned. Can’t invest in the product roadmap. Board loses confidence. Investors start asking questions. What’s the cost of that uncertainty over a year?”
This is where N.E.A.T. Selling™ becomes critical. The Economic Impact component forces you to quantify value in dollars, not vague “pain points.”
Training focus: Give reps a framework to calculate economic impact. Problem cost + opportunity cost + risk cost = total annual impact. Practice quantifying on every discovery call.
Consultative Sales Training Competency 3: Earn the Right to Ask Tough Questions Professionally
Buyers don’t grant credibility for free. You earn it by demonstrating you understand their business, their industry, and their specific situation better than they expected.
Once you’ve earned that credibility, you can challenge them:
“You said you want to implement this in Q3, but based on what you told me about your approval process, that timeline isn’t realistic. Here’s what actually needs to happen…”
Or: “I hear you saying price is the issue, but based on the numbers you shared, you’re losing $400K annually on this problem. Even at our full price, you’re profitable in 90 days. So help me understand—is it really price, or is it believability that we can deliver?”
Weak consultative selling:
Buyer says “We don’t have budget.” Rep accepts it and asks “When might budget become available?”
Strong consultative selling:
Buyer says “We don’t have budget.” Rep challenges: “Help me understand. You said this problem costs you $500K annually. Our solution is $100K. If the ROI is 5:1, budget isn’t the issue—it’s either priority or believability. Which one is it?”
Training focus: Teach reps to challenge respectfully after they’ve diagnosed and quantified. You earn the right through insight, not tenure.
Consultative Sales Training Competency 4: Navigate Complex Buying Committees Strategically
Modern B2B buying decisions involve 6-10 stakeholders. Consultative sellers don’t just “build relationships”—they map the committee, understand what each stakeholder cares about, and enable their champion to sell internally. Consultative sales training teaches sales reps how to earn the right to ask questions of each stakeholder, which questions to ask, and when to ask them.
Weak consultative selling:
“Who’s the decision-maker?” Then they try to sell to that one person.
Strong consultative selling:
“Walk me through who’s involved in this decision. Who cares most about ROI? Who cares about risk? Who could veto this even if everyone else agrees? What’s your typical approval process for investments like this? How can I help you build the internal case?”
Then they create materials tailored to each stakeholder, brief the champion on how to handle objections, and offer to join key meetings.
Understanding how to coach reps through complex stakeholder navigation is why personalized 1:1 coaching beats generic training every time.
Training focus: Role-play multi-stakeholder scenarios. Teach reps to map committees, not just “find the decision-maker.”
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The Biggest Consultative Sales Training Mistakes
Even when companies invest in consultative sales training, they create these problems:
Consultative Sales Training Mistake 1: Training Questions, Not Diagnosis
Most programs teach reps to memorize question lists. “Ask about their goals. Ask about their challenges. Ask about their timeline.”
Consultative sales training teaches reps learn how to earn the right to ask questions—but not how to process the answers. They ask “What’s your biggest challenge?” and when the buyer says “Our pipeline is unpredictable,” they move to the next question instead of diagnosing why it’s unpredictable.
The fix: Train diagnosis frameworks, not question lists. Teach reps to dig three levels deep: surface symptom → operational cause → business impact.
Consultative Sales Training Mistake 2: Confusing Consultative with Passive
Training tells reps “Don’t be pushy. Let the buyer guide the conversation. Build rapport before selling.”
So reps become passive. They ask questions but don’t challenge. They listen but don’t lead. They wait for buyers to tell them what they need instead of guiding them to better decisions.
The fix: Teach “earn the right to lead.” You’re consultative when you guide with insight, not when you follow passively.
Consultative Sales Training Mistake 3: No Framework for Earning Commitment
Reps spend hours diagnosing problems, building custom business cases, and presenting solutions—without ever getting commitment that the buyer will actually move forward if the numbers work.
Then they’re shocked when the buyer ghosts them or uses their work to negotiate with a competitor.
The fix: Teach reps to earn commitment before doing free consulting: “If we can solve [problem] and the ROI is [X], are you prepared to move forward?”
Consultative Sales Training Mistake 4: Teaching “Rapport Building” Instead of “Credibility Earning”
Most training emphasizes building personal relationships. Find common ground. Ask about their weekend. Comment on the photo on their desk.
That’s nice. But buyers don’t buy from you because you’re nice. They buy from you because you understand their business and can solve their problems better than alternatives.
The fix: Train reps to earn credibility through insight and diagnosis, not small talk. Rapport is a byproduct of competence, not a prerequisite for it.
Consultative Sales Training Mistake 5: One-Time Training with No Reinforcement
You send your team to a two-day consultative selling workshop. They get certified. Then nobody coaches it, nobody role-plays it, and six months later everyone’s back to pitching features.
The fix: Build consultative selling into your ongoing coaching process. Review discovery calls in 1:1s. Role-play diagnosis in team meetings. Reinforce it constantly.
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How to Train Consultative Selling – A Tactical Implementation Guide
Here’s how to actually train consultative selling without creating passive question-askers:
Step 1: Start with “Why” (Not “How”)
Before you teach techniques, teach why consultative selling matters. Show your team the data:
– Consultative sellers have higher win rates (industry data)
– They close larger deals (value selling vs. transactional)
– They have shorter sales cycles (diagnosis prevents late-stage objections)
– They lose fewer deals to “no decision” (urgency through economic impact)
Make the case for why this approach works before teaching the techniques.
Step 2: Teach Diagnosis Before Questions
Don’t start with question lists. Start with diagnosis frameworks.
Framework: The Three-Level Diagnosis
Level 1: Surface symptom (what buyer says)
Level 2: Operational cause (why it’s happening)
Level 3: Business impact (cost in dollars/risk/opportunity)
Example:
– Level 1: “Our pipeline is unpredictable” (symptom)
– Level 2: “Because deals slip at late stage after pricing” (cause)
– Level 3: “Which costs us $1.5M in missed quarterly targets, delays hiring, and damages board confidence” (impact)
Train reps to move through all three levels before proposing solutions.
Step 3: Role-Play Real Scenarios (Not Generic Exercises)
Don’t role-play “practice asking discovery questions.” That’s too vague.
Role-play specific scenarios from lost deals:
– Buyer says “Our forecast is unpredictable.” Diagnose three levels deep.
– Buyer says “We don’t have budget.” Challenge it using economic impact.
– Buyer introduces a new stakeholder late in the cycle. Map the committee and adapt.
Make it real. Make it uncomfortable. That’s where learning happens.
Step 4: Record and Review Discovery Calls
The best consultative selling training happens on real calls, not in workshops.
Have reps record discovery calls (with buyer permission). In 1:1 coaching sessions, review:
– Did they diagnose or just ask questions?
– Did they quantify economic impact?
– Did they earn the right to challenge assumptions?
– Did they guide the conversation or follow passively?
Real call reviews beat role-plays every time.
Step 5: Build Economic Impact Calculators
Give your team tools to quantify value on every call.
Create simple frameworks:
– Problem Cost Calculator: What does this problem cost annually?
– Opportunity Cost Calculator: What could they achieve if this were fixed?
– Risk Cost Calculator: What’s at risk if they don’t solve this?
Train reps to fill these out during discovery and use them to build urgency.
For more on building these business cases effectively, see our guide on sales forecasting best practices.
Step 6: Create Stakeholder Mapping Templates
Give reps a simple template to map buying committees:
| Stakeholder | Role | Cares About | Potential Objection | How to Address |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| CFO | Budget approver | ROI, risk | “Too expensive” | Quantified payback period |
| VP Sales | End user | Ease of use | “Team won’t adopt” | Pilot program, training plan |
| IT | Technical | Integration | “Won’t work with our stack” | Technical proof of concept |
Train reps to fill this out for every deal and use it to tailor their approach.
Step 7: Measure Outcomes, Not Activities
Don’t measure “consultative selling certification completion” or “number of discovery questions asked.”
Measure outcomes:
– Deal velocity: Are deals moving faster through the pipeline?
– Win rates: Are you winning more often?
– Average deal size: Are you closing larger deals?
– Forecast accuracy: Are deals actually closing when predicted?
If consultative selling training isn’t improving these metrics, it’s not working.
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Consultative Selling Frameworks to Train
Here are the tactical frameworks your team needs to master:
Framework 1: The Diagnosis Ladder
Level 1: What’s the symptom? (surface problem buyer states)
Level 2: What’s causing it? (operational root cause)
Level 3: What’s the business impact? (quantified cost/risk/opportunity)
Level 4: What happens if you don’t fix it? (urgency)
Train reps to climb this ladder on every discovery call before proposing solutions.
Framework 2: Economic Impact Quantification
Formula: Problem Cost + Opportunity Cost + Risk Cost = Total Annual Impact
Problem Cost: What does this problem cost today? (wasted time, lost revenue, inefficiency)
Opportunity Cost: What could you achieve if this were fixed? (growth, efficiency gains)
Risk Cost: What’s at risk if you don’t solve this? (compliance, reputation, competitive loss)
Train reps to calculate this with buyers, not for them. Co-create the business case.
Framework 3: Earning the Right to Challenge
Step 1: Demonstrate understanding (summarize what they told you)
Step 2: Connect dots they haven’t connected (show insight)
Step 3: Respectfully challenge the assumption (“I hear you saying X, but based on what you told me about Y, here’s what I’m seeing…”)
Step 4: Offer alternative perspective (“Have you considered…”)
You earn the right through Steps 1-2. Then you can challenge in Steps 3-4.
Framework 4: Commitment Checkpoints
Before you invest significant time, earn commitment:
After diagnosis: “If we can solve [problem] and the ROI is [X], is this a priority to address?”
Before building business case: “If the numbers work, are you prepared to move forward?”
Before final presentation: “If we can address [concerns], what’s your process to get this approved?”
Don’t do free consulting. Earn commitment at each stage.
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Common Objections to Consultative Sales Training
When you propose consultative selling training, you’ll hear these objections:
“Our reps already ask questions.”
Response: Asking questions isn’t the same as diagnosing problems. Most reps ask surface-level questions and accept surface-level answers. Consultative selling requires digging three levels deep and quantifying business impact.
“This sounds time-consuming. We need reps to close deals, not spend hours in discovery.”
Response: Bad discovery is what’s time-consuming—it creates late-stage objections, deal slippage, and lost deals. Consultative selling front-loads diagnosis to prevent problems later. Your sales cycle gets faster, not slower.
“We sell a simple product. We don’t need consultative selling.”
Response: Even “simple” products solve business problems. If you’re not quantifying the economic impact of those problems, you’re leaving money on the table and losing to competitors who do.
“Our buyers don’t want to be ‘consulted’—they just want pricing.”
Response: Buyers who just want pricing are shopping on price, which means you’ve already lost. Consultative selling helps you compete on value instead of price.
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Key Takeaways
Consultative selling isn’t about asking questions—it’s about diagnosing problems. Most training teaches question lists. Real consultative selling teaches diagnosis frameworks that uncover root causes and business impact.
Being consultative means earning the right to lead, not being passive. You guide conversations with insight, challenge assumptions when warranted, and drive decisions through economic reality—not manipulation.
Quantifying economic impact is non-negotiable. If you can’t put a dollar value on the problem you’re solving, you haven’t done consultative selling. You’ve had a nice conversation.
Train diagnosis, not questions. Give your team frameworks to climb from surface symptoms to business impact. Role-play diagnosis on real scenarios, not generic exercises.
Consultative selling requires ongoing coaching, not one-time training. Build it into your sales enablement process. Review discovery calls. Reinforce frameworks constantly.
For a comprehensive breakdown of why N.E.A.T. Selling™ delivers superior consultative results, see our guide on mastering consultative selling.
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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
What is consultative sales training?
Consultative sales training teaches reps to diagnose buyer problems, quantify economic impact, and guide decisions through insight—not just ask questions and build rapport. Effective consultative training focuses on outcomes (diagnosis, quantification, strategic guidance) rather than behaviors (active listening, question-asking). The best programs use frameworks like N.E.A.T. Selling™ to train diagnosis and economic impact quantification.
How is consultative selling different from transactional selling?
Transactional selling focuses on product features and closing quickly. Consultative selling focuses on diagnosing business problems, quantifying their economic impact, and guiding buyers to better decisions. Transactional reps pitch solutions based on stated needs. Consultative sellers uncover needs buyers don’t fully understand yet and connect operational problems to business impact.
What are the key skills needed for consultative selling?
The four core competencies are: (1) Diagnosing problems three levels deep (symptom → cause → business impact), (2) Quantifying economic impact in dollars, (3) Earning the right to challenge assumptions and guide decisions, and (4) Navigating complex buying committees strategically. Most training only teaches #1 (asking questions) and ignores #2-#4, which is why it fails.
How long does consultative sales training take?
One-time training doesn’t work. Consultative selling requires 3-6 months of ongoing coaching and reinforcement to change behavior. Plan for: initial workshop (2-3 days), weekly role-plays for 90 days, recorded call reviews in 1:1 coaching sessions, and continuous reinforcement of frameworks. Measure success by deal velocity, win rates, and forecast accuracy—not training completion.
What’s the biggest mistake companies make with consultative sales training?
The biggest mistake is training questions instead of diagnosis. Reps learn to ask “What are your biggest challenges?” but not how to dig deeper, uncover root causes, or quantify business impact. They become question-askers who can’t close deals instead of consultative sellers who diagnose problems and drive decisions. Fix this by training diagnosis frameworks, not question lists.
How do you measure the success of consultative sales training?
Don’t measure training completion or certification rates. Measure business outcomes: (1) Deal velocity—are deals moving faster? (2) Win rates—are you winning more often? (3) Average deal size—are you closing larger deals? (4) Forecast accuracy—are forecasted deals actually closing? If these metrics don’t improve within 90 days of training, your program isn’t working.
Can consultative selling work for transactional or low-priced products?
Yes, but you need to adapt the approach. Even low-priced products solve business problems that cost money. The key is efficiency—you can’t spend 10 hours diagnosing a $5K deal. Train reps to diagnose quickly (15-20 minutes), quantify impact using simple frameworks, and earn commitment fast. Consultative doesn’t mean slow—it means strategic.
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Your Next Steps
Step 1: Audit your current consultative sales training. Is it teaching questions or diagnosis? Behaviors or outcomes? Record a few discovery calls and analyze whether reps are diagnosing problems or just asking surface-level questions.
Step 2: Choose a diagnosis framework. N.E.A.T. Selling™ is built for this—Need, Economic Impact, Access to Authority, Timeline. Train your team to diagnose and quantify on every call.
Step 3: Build ongoing coaching into your process. Consultative selling isn’t a one-time workshop. Make it part of every 1:1, every pipeline review, every team meeting.
Step 4: Measure what matters. Track deal velocity, win rates, average deal size, and forecast accuracy. If consultative training isn’t improving these, adjust your approach.
Step 5: Get help if you need it. If you’re struggling to implement consultative selling training or seeing reps revert to transactional habits, we can help. Call or text Richard directly: 415.596.9149.
We’re not going to sell you a certification program. We’re going to help you build a consultative sales culture that actually drives revenue.
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Additional Resources
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